So, I read this morning that the new Governor of New York and his wife publicly admitted to having extramarital affairs.
What is this country coming to???
Here's the thing. While I do not condone extramarital affairs, people in the United States have got to come to grips with letting go of this puritanical and utopian expectation of perfection that we have of our leadership. They are people, plain and simple. And people are not perfect. Period. It is unrealistic to expect human beings to walk the straight and narrow moral and ethical lines of life at all times. I know this is what we want….but let's be honest, it's unrealistic.
And most importantly, what a person does or doesn't do within the confines of their marriage is truly none of any one's business. It certainly should not be the measure to which we determine whether a person can or can not do their job in political office. Here's the thing -- leaders all over the world, as well as in our own Presidencies have been less than "faithful" to their respective spouses. This has been going on for centuries. Does that truly mean that they are not capable of being a good leader? No, I do not think so. While I don't think it's morally correct for them to cheat on their spouses -- it is not for me to place judgement upon them for that. Because none of us are perfect. Nor am I involved in their relationships to know the specifics of their day to day life. I think part of the fire that is fueling this is the lack of separation between state and religion - and I do tend to think that is where the lines have become very fuzzy in our political communities presently. (This is not the same as keeping "One nation, under God" in the pledge of Allegiance which I whole heartedly support.)
But the problem that seems to be upon us today with people like former Governor Spitzer - is that we have this "holier than thou" perspective of others, as did he in his judgement of others. Which is part of what led to his demise. And I tend to think that a lot of these politicians are suffering from "doth protest too loudly" which often leads to them being guilty of the very things that they're persecuting others of. Those who live in glass houses, should be sure that they have nothing to hide because the stones cast back are often boulders.
Truth be told - if someone truly was that "squeaky clean" as we want them to be, there more than certainly would be a witch hunt to find skeletons in their closet because we not only don't believe that they can be that good -- we don't want them to be either. We in this country thrive on the demise of others. We build people up, just to tear them down. We are poor little sheep that are following a fickle and disfunctional shepherd known as the media. And we frenzy over the misgivings and falling of others.
So here's my suggestion to America. Let your leaders be people, and stay out of their bedrooms. Worry about their thoughts and views on public issues and stop worrying about their personal moral compass. Worry about them doing things that are associated with their roles in office, and if they don't have their city/state/country's best interests at hand. Because there are very few people in life who truly talk the talk and walk the walk as well; life is complicated, and not always how we want it to be. No one is ever proud to say that there are problems in their marriage and so maybe they're seeking something elsewhere. And while I certainly don't condone seeking alternatives outside of the marriage and don't want this post to be construed that way -- I'm not wearing blinders to how life really is either.
And truthfully - the bottom line is -- it's really none of your business anyway.