One of my girlfriends recently threw someone a birthday dinner. She went all out to make the night special....she decorated the house, made a dinner complete from appetizers to dessert; she really wanted to create a memorable night for them. And it was.... everyone had a wonderful time. Interesting thing though. The guest of honor never called the next day to say thank you. Actually, the next time they spoke - a few days later - it wasn't mentioned at all then either. My friend - being a very thoughtful, kind and warm person - was hurt by the fact that nothing was mentioned. No "hey - you know, I really had a great time the other night...". Nothing. How do you react to something like that? Do you give them the benefit of the doubt that they thought expressing fun at the moment in which it occured was good enough? Do you chalk it up to ignorance?
I'm very much a "thank you" person. I appreciate everything that a person does for me when they've got kind thoughts and obviously my best intentions in mind. Not only do I follow up with a thank you call (or email, which nowadays is appropriate in lieu of a phone call for this kind of positive feedback); but I send a thank you card. This is just how I am. Some may say that's going too far....I however, think that if someone is taking the time out to do something kind for me, than the very least I can do is write a short note and spend 32 cents on a stamp to send a token of my appreciation.
It wasn't necessarily ingrained in me as a child to do this; my mom always taught various niceties about kindness of course - but thank you note writing wasn't a "must". This is something that I've sort of learned along the way, as what my perspective of how I choose to be as a person in the big scheme of life is. To me, while sending a card might be construed as more than necessary to some - at least calling to let someone know that their thoughts and efforts were appreciated is something that should be a core part of who you are as a person. And I often wonder how some people manage to go through life trumping on other's feelings in such a manner without ever having it brought to their attention.
Am I the only one who feels this way?