Wednesday, January 05, 2011

Me, I'm a part of your circle of friends....

What would you do if you had a friend who's loyalty you questioned?
Would you address it.... or would you just let it go.

Keep it tucked in the back of your mind for future use...Change your expectations of that relationship -- but not completely cut them off? Decide it's better to have them in your life, even if on the peripheral - than not at all.

Sometimes people do things, say things, act out - in ways different than they used to, or different than we'd ever expect them to. Sometimes, a good person will do a not so great thing. Does it mean they don't have good character? Or does it mean that sometimes we never know how we will react in a given situation, or when exposed to certain elements or even changes in our lives.

Is it better to have a friend disappoint you, but stay in your life.... than to not have them there at all...? How important is loyalty in a friendship? Is it mutually exclusive with trust or are they two separate animals.

Or is loyalty just too demanding of a word.....

1 comment:

~**Dawn**~ said...

I suppose, for me, it depends on the "degree of friendship" with the person involved. If it was just an acquaintance of a casual friend, I might allow it to go unmentioned & see how the natural course of events unfolded. If it were one of my close confidantes though, I would have to talk with them about it. I would want to understand & do everything in my power to preserve our friendship. I don't let people into that inner circle easily so I would put forth the effort, hoping that if I ever did or said something that put them into that position, they would love me & respect me enough to dig a little deeper. I like to think my "inner circle" keeps me in check & makes me a better person, when the need arises. One thing I will not tolerate any longer though is having toxic people in my life. While a close friend might get some warning in advance to provide explanation or make some changes, I would not hesitate to cut someone out of my life for insisting on being toxic. It wouldn't be the first time. It's sad & difficult, but it's far worse for me to let them continue to poison my life. I have high expectations for my closest friends, but none that I don't hold myself to as well.