Wednesday, November 30, 2005

Pensive thoughts today...

Yesterday I received a very interesting phone call...it really affected me.
It was from an old friend; one that I haven't spoken to in about 8 years.
Remember my post from a few weeks back about friends, and the categories in life within which they fall?

This used to be an "A" friend.
Who I don't think can ever work her way back up...

The conversation kept me up last night...I couldn't stop thinking about it.
What can you do, when you know you can't help someone, because they have to help themselves.....

13 comments:

Bougie Black Boy said...

Yeah, but you are teasing your readers right now by not telling us about the phone call. We want to know the juice... come on... puh-lease. . . :)

Hope you had a great holiday.

Rebecca said...

Hey Stephen....it's a long one... I'm STILL working on it! Sorry! :) And talk about teasing...hello! Did you get my response on your post? :)

ProfessorGQ said...

I understand about someone who was once an "A" friend to be gone and the come back for a purpose to ask for something...all I can do is wish them a way to find what they're looking for although I am not the one who is going to help him/her.

Rebecca said...

Hey Professor - Thanks for stopping by! Similar to my thoughts exactly...you'll have to read tomorrow's post for all the details. It's truly sad...

Lori said...

You can offer support and friendship...just don't allow yourself to be brought down in the mire. It's interesting how some people fall out of your life until there is a crisis. I'll be staying tuned for "the rest of the story"!

Kodijack said...

Perfect time for tough love, absolutely perfect time. What better advice could they get then from someone who used to care about them and now doesn't?

JAX said...

I have been in this predicament a lot. I have learned and am still learning, all you can do it let them know you are there when they need you and pray for them. You can't force a person to do what you think is right for them. All you will do is stress yourself out trying.

Laurie said...

I think I'll keep my opinions to myself until I hear the rest of the story... :-)

naive-no-more said...

The same exact thing happened to me last night, except that I've had more contact with this friend than it sounds like you've had.

She called me because she knew I would understand, seeing as I had been through similar feelings.

Don't fret, the situation will play out and you'll know what to do when the time is right.

GlitterGlamGirl05 said...

I've had moments and days like that. Hell after what happened this past week you and I both deserve a good night's sleep -- or maybe coffee talk at Starbucks one of these days.

Bougie Black Boy said...

yeah i did get your response to my post! I'm a tease too. Perhaps I'll just be blunt and tacky and list a link to my crush's blog. lol

Rebecca said...

Hey all.... the story is coming. I'm going to post it now. :)

Stephen - YES, you are a big tease. ;) hahaha.

And Glitter - we're on for coffee, trust me! It will happen, possibly next week if you're around! I'll call you. :)

Jerry said...

I remember the post about "long lost friends" it got me thinking and I spent about two days interviewing different friends about the issues you wrote about...interesting how after 8 years you would hear from her now....