Friday, February 03, 2006

A rose by any other name....

Let's say that you've got this ex-boyfriend, or ex-girlfriend - and you have fond memories of one another. But, unfortunately you didn't end up together. The odds were stacked against you anyway - maybe you were too young, maybe you wanted different things out of life - maybe one time you thought about trying again, but the timing wasn't right. You were in another relationship, or maybe he/she was. Whatever the situation, it just wasn't in the cards for you as a couple.

So you both go on in your lives, and you both find a partner. Someone you choose to settle down and start a family with. One of you has children first...then the other follows suit. Because you both have mutual friends and acquaintences, while you don't speak to each other, you're both aware of what each of you is doing in life.

Say one of you has a daughter, and names her "Sarah Anne". Eighteen months later, the other person has a daughter - and names her "Sara Ann".

Mere coincidence.... or wistful thinking of a life one wishes they had?

14 comments:

Rebecca said...

Footnote to this: Sarah Anne is not the name in question - it's merely an example. The true name is far more unique.

Laura said...

Wow...that's some scary water to tred. I think I'd be a little upset if I were the second child's parent and found out my spouse wanted that name because their ex had named their child that. Interesting story. Of course, I don't (and won't) have any children because I already have 3 wonderful stepchildren so I won't ever to get name anyone other than a cat!

Did you get any visitors from me yesterday? I had no time to blog so I thought I'd send everyone your way.

naive-no-more said...

Yikes! Don't you have an 18 month old?

clew said...

Hm. Weird. I was going to say maybe they just both liked the same names ... but if it's really a much more unique name ... Hm.

Rebecca said...

Let's say that one girl is named "Sofia Anjolie". And the other one is named "Sophia Angela".

Kodijack said...

I would say that imatation is greatest form of flattery.

And yeah, we all misfire in relationships, it happens. But laboring years over a bad decision is not a great way to have a marriage, get over it.

bigwhitehat said...

I married the ex-girlfriend.

Big Ben said...

I could have sworn I posted a comment on this one.

I will know for sure if someone copies the name I give my kid...chances are there will not be another "Ben Jr. Super-stud" out there.

Lori said...

Ben, I thought I did too.

This is odd...but why would you want to name your own child after that of an ex's child? Maybe they heard the name and thought it was beautiful....

Don't know on this one..

McSwain said...

Now wait a minute, did the second child's parent know the first child had been born and named the same? If so, that's just strange.

If he or she didn't know, perhaps the couple had discussed names when together and both loved this one?

Either way, coincidence? I doubt it.

chesneygirl said...

WHOA!! Doesn't sound coincidental to me...expecially with a unique name as Sophia.

Btw, I LOOOVE the name Sophia! Was a name we were considering when I was pregnant with my son.

Rebecca said...

Hey all - thanks for your thoughts on this. Yup, my daughter's the older one, Sofia Anjolie. My ex boyfriend's daughter was just born, Sophia Angela (Or Angelea, my friend's mom couldn't remember which it was). He knew the name of my daugher for sure... but I don't think his girlfriend does!! :)

Joseph A. said...

Jeepers, sounds like a tiny shade of regret. Perhaps the two people in question married (different partners) before they were truly 'ready'? In any case, the situation described does not necessarily sound entirely happy / satisfying ~ though perhaps it was a more theoretical description than actual...

VJ said...

I say whoa on this one too. Why is'nt there some sort of codicil or mutual agreement on this stuff. Like if the first kid gets the name you picked out with the ex, they have to think of a new one? Why not be sensible here? Cheers, 'VJ'