Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Life is like a box of chocolates....you just don't know what you're going to get

Cats vs. Dogs
Boys vs Girls
First born vs Baby
Athletic vs Book Smart
Jock vs Nerd

There should be no blanket association or labels for people. We can associate different behaviours and the way people act;we can blame it on birth signs, the cycle of the moon in the month, hormones, over indulged, gifted, neglected, middle child....the list goes on and on.  There are a million things that we can say to justify our need to define others.  By defining others and outlining their flaws, we feel better about ourselves and our own flaws that we try to suppress.

But the truth of the matter is that we're just all different.  No two ways about it.  There can be no passing of judgement, no titles handed out, no lines in the sand drawn because someone doesn't act in a way that someone else is used to  - or deems to be acceptable to what their idea of "normal" is.

We weren't born with textbooks outlining our quirks and moods - just as parents aren't given guides as to how children are -- or are not -- going to behave.

There is no "normal".  We're all abnormal in our own way and that is what is perfectly normal.  I think the beautiful thing about perfection is that there is nothing truly perfect.  It's life's imperfections that make life perfect...the beautiful disaster of it all. 

 We all have misgivings in things we say or do from time to time in life.  That's what makes us human.  Our flaws and mistakes are what make us unique and special; the hope is that we learn from those mistakes so we don't repeat them and we grow as time goes on.

That is why you can't have blanket associations for individuals.  A child who may be book smart may not opt for college and may work with his hands; a naturally gifted athletic child may decide to turn away from sports to do something else; a mischevious child may turn out to be the straightest arrow as an adult.  Who we are at 10 is different than 20, is different than 30, is different than 40.

We are constantly growing and learning and evolving who we are....and that is probably the most perfect part of life. 

No comments: